What do we do when we have realized that doors are meant to be shut in our lives?  I have been in the clarification process about a few of those doors in my own life recently and have come to see that while it is painful to shut them, to choose not to do so would lead to more pain for everyone.  Enable the dysfunction and it grows.

What I have also come to see is that some doors are meant to be transformed, rather than shut, renovated as it were... and though it may be easier and less painful in the short term to shut THOSE doors of relation, it is for the benefit of all beings to stay faithful to the spirit of the law of the relation while allowing all that is inessential to be cut away.  Kali Ma!!
 
What finesse it takes to act appropriately and receive the guidance as to which approach is the highest good for all.

Such surrender.

amazing faith

and Belief in Grace!!

humbly,
Li Li

Harmony through conflict.  When we are faced with difference we have the choice to accept, change ourselves, turn away, condemn...  When my intimates are living not as I would, making choices that perhaps I would not, doing things that perhaps I would not... and I really want to be in rapport with them.... What do I do?
I could very very easilly critique them, judge them , "teach" them something.... or at least try to... and very very probably open a can of worms and start a fight.
But I have seen lately that I do not want to waste that energy engaging in the ego that way.  It is hard enough to keep my OWN inventory, and mind the hard business of my own evolution, nevertheless try to maintain everyone's dosier of morality and spiritual success.
If we can learn to "live and let live", trusting to (fill in the blanks here of your own title/name of divine essence) that the sacred relationship between _____ and the one I am conflicted with is as it should be... I can release myself from the pain of navigating my own hyper-vigilant "soul detector". 
I want to see the God in everyone, recognize their unique relationship and I want to live in a way that honors their progress in realizing their highest potential, without my needing to interfere in it.
That means getting out of the way of my own ego and everyone else's... it means actively meditating on my willingness to forgive, ahead of time, all of the ways someone might "disappoint" my wish for them to be "all that they can be". 
It means being in the moving meditation of choosing carefully and consciously, my words and actions in relation to those who seem to be rogues and rascals with a spiritual twist.  I cannot condemn them - it isn't my job to do so.  I do want to be wise and practice discernment, however... I want to allow for the right relation to reveal itself.  No-one should play "nice" and be a doormat for anyone in the name of being "holy'.... we need not be martyrs.  Giving someone boundaries is smart, but only as far as the threshold of the heart.  Deny the choices of others the power to do you harm, not out of resistance or repulsion - not by protecting or defending - but by seeing through the choices to recognize the real Do-er behind them.  Love the inner being unconditionally, and in the same moment say no to the persona that does damage and it's negative actions.  i do not need to host in my home a friend who steals from me... but I do need to show them who they are beyond the action of the theft...
I am meditating on this very powerfully these days.
It seems to be a time when we have the chance to shift the shame and blame mentality towards a more compassionate one... without slipping into a place where we enable those who are acting blindly.
I want to seize the moment and invoke fiercely!!
Any thoughts from others?

Li Li

Hmmm.... After spending some time with Amadon's work with this living topic on his blog I wanted to write a few lines about the ideal relationship.  What is the aspiration behind the search, the hunger, the authentic need for Other?  A friend of many years recently asked me what I wanted in intimacy, after watching me fall down so many times into painful endings with lovers...
I have been sitting with that, in the interest of really seeing what that "wish" is, for the complete package, what perfection might look like in true intimacy.... so here goes.  I am wanting to put this out as an invocation for healing for all troubled hearts who know that they are not "there" yet.

1. When someone is a partner, it means PARTNER.  It means that each person realizes that the other has better things to do with their time and energy than do most of the work of living day to day.  Time/money and chores and errands and parenting take a lot out of us all.... honor the ways in which each being could create, play, be free, grow, expand their love and awareness - by taking half of what needs to be done and doing it!!  Love is a committment to sharing, not taking.... so the ideal relation would have this built into the agreement of hearts about practical needs complementing transcendental life, not being vs it!!
2.  Expression:  does sex always gratify one and not the other?  Ouch.  what a drain of energy and passion.  If we save the "deed" for the truly inspirational moments and it is approached with the same committment as the day to day practical things - you are equal to me in all ways.... cannot tenderness, passion, exultation be reached by both?!  The ideal here:  ask for anything, but give it all in return.  Withold nothing, and receive everything.  Yeah, its a lofty goal.... what else is there to aim at?!
3.  Communication:  Respond, not react.  Think and thank before speaking. Honor the total wholeness of eachother when speaking verbally or nonverbally.  Discipline the heart and teh tongue will follow.  Say little, act much, with kindness and care, even when angry.  Allow for hard emotions, let them flow, do not take them too seriously... they are waves passing and cannot be caught in the net of reality.  Allow grace to control the way we interact, not our little selves.
4.  Free Your Heart from Expectation!! Grow together and change with the reality of strengths, weaknesses, lovable traits or hateful habits.  Expect nothing, be surprised by what happens when you free each other from want and need.

Well, that is what it would be like... that is the prayer for whole real-la-tionship.
May all intimates realize these wholenesses!

Li Li

For more Kriya Artwork, please see my photos page... there are just a few paintings there right now, but that collection will change and grow over time!

If anyone is interested in commissioning a spiritual portrait or other devotional piece, please contact me here at zaadz, or at alunaj9@yahoo.com
thank you and namaste

Li Li

This is a piece of the painting mentioned above.
Jai Sri Guru Ki Jai

i just finished a painting that i am bringing to Boston to offer for Amma's blessing.  It is truly amazing to realize that art is not something I DO.  Art is something that is done to me... it is something sentient and alive and it transforms me, motivates my invocation for personal and planetary healing...
I am humbled by the beauty and force of the images that come through the medium of my little self!  They are not - could not be - my creations.  They live through the intention to bring something true into the world.
In the meditation of art, we can be purified, healed, evolved, transcended, and made real.

Wow.

Li Li
KriyaArtist